I love to hear stories about how couples first met. We tend to have a vision in our mind of how we will meet someone special. In the years since I’ve been single, I have kept an open mind about meeting men and just going with the flow of things. This is definitely new for me as the typical “type A” personality, but the thing I’ve learned is when you relinquish the need to control everything, then magical things can happen.
I’m sure we have all met guys in bars, at parties, friend’s house, special events, etc. Living in Miami, it can be a challenge to meet men who are not only looking for a quick hookup. I say “only” because let’s be honest, there’s nothing inherently wrong with a man wanting to sleep with you. It’s a sign that he’s physically attracted to you and why wouldn’t he be? You are fabulous after all.
But, the challenge comes into play when you want more than a casual hookup or friend with benefits. For me, I have certain standards that I expect any man who wants my time to respect. The very first standard is the “call me” standard.
Let’s face it, technology has changed the dating game and frankly, texting is lazy as hell. I know of guys and girls who will text someone while in the car or even in bed next to their current beau. So if a man wants me to take him seriously, then he must first call and ask me out properly. Yes, it’s old fashioned but guess what? It’s an easy way to weed out the time wasters.
When Jer asked for my number, I made it very clear in a flirty and playful way that he needed to call and ask me out properly. After we cleared up our first “fight,” he asked me out via text, to which I reminded him that he needed to call me to ask me properly. I stayed fun and positive and even ended the text with a smiley emoji. When we didn’t mention in the video was that when he did call, he apologized for the delay because his family was in town.
So what’s the easiest way to get a guy to call you to ask you out? Let him know in a playful and fun manner that he needs to call you. If he’s truly interested then he will make the time to call you. If he doesn’t, then that’s okay. It simply means he wasn’t interested enough and you certainly don’t want a guy with a lukewarm interest.
How did you meet your boyfriend/husband? How do you feel about men texting vs. calling to ask you out?